Miscarriage Matters

Spring is officially here! Hopefully the weather cooperates soon 😉 Spring is a time of renewal, learning to form and embrace a new version of yourself.

The Centered Life recently partnered with the blog talk radio show “Miscarriage Matters” as a part of the series Renewal of Body, Mind, and Soul. I was invited to be a guest by Danielle Langford. Danielle is an Empowerment Specialist and Workshop Facilitator, who created pinkempowers.com and is also the host of Miscarriage Matters. Miscarriage Matters is a radio show educating the public about miscarriage and loss and how it truly affects a person by offering friendship and a listening ear.

Miscarriage is important to talk about as it happens to women and families everywhere. Miscarriage does not discriminate. Through my work with clients who have experienced a miscarriage, I have gathered that there seems to be this attached shame of talking about it and rushed sense of needing to grieve quickly or if at all. Miscarriage Matters radio exists to let you know that you are not alone and to offer support.

Renewal involves establishing the new normal. Specifically, it is learning to form and embrace a “new version” of yourself with the loss now being a part of you; as a part of your identity.


Here are 8 helpful aspects to consider as you start your journey towards a “new normal”:

  1. First and foremost, know that you are not alone. You will never get over the miscarriage, but you can get through it.
  1. Allow yourself to grieve! Allow yourself to go through the grieving process by acknowledging the loss and learning to sit with the pain and to seek support.
  2. Increase your self-care by challenging feelings of guilt, getting involved in things that promote empowerment, and embracing self-love.
  1. Find your sense of self again. Give yourself permission to go through the grieving process- no matter what that looks like.
  1. We are emotional beings: express yourself through the process. Allow yourself to cry, be sad, and be angry, etc.
  1. It is okay to laugh! Experiencing joy is okay, even when you feel sadness and pain.
  1. Renewal starts when you are ready; sometimes loss becomes more painful, before it gets better
  1. Know that your experience is unique and grief is not linear. With that being said, there is no time frame or formula for grief. Everyone grieves differently and that is okay. It all depends on the culture, background, experience, situation, and of course the individual.


I encourage you to seek counseling as it can be tremendously helpful to validate your experience. Additionally, I encourage you to seek support through a religious or spiritual affiliation, volunteering, joining a club or organization, and from family/friends. As Danielle said in the show, “Sometimes you need to go outside, to get renewed inside”.

Please be sure to tune in weekly on Tuesdays at 7pm CST to listen to Danielle Langford and Miscarriage Matters. You can connect with Danielle and the rest of the Miscarriage Matters team at blogtalkradio.com/miscarriagematters. You can email them mmradio@mymiscarriagematters.org. I also encourage you to check out Danielle’s website here for inspiration and a schedule of her upcoming workshops!

You can listen to this radio show segment HERE .







Fight Stigma


As a therapist, I am a big proponent of face to face contact and having live conversation.  With that being said, I have really learned social media to be a great tool to spread awareness and shed light to fighting mental health stigma. A few months ago, I stumbled upon the page “schizophrenic.nyc” on Instagram.  Michelle, the founder of the page and clothing line company was kind enough to share her story with me as well as to allow me to share her inspiring story with others.

From her words to your eyes (and ears)-

Walking down the New York city streets it’s not hard to see someone homeless. Also, it’s apparent that most NYC homeless have a mental illness. Sometimes they are yelling or signaling towards people who are imaginary. Their body might be present, but their mind is somewhere else. This upsets me. Why? Because I have Schizophrenia and I’m not homeless. Fortunately, I am lucky enough to have support that makes it possible for me to live a “normal” life. Without the help of my family and friends I could easily be homeless. So I decided I wanted to give back. I wanted to start a company that could start a conversation about Mental Illness as well as help out with the NYC homeless population. This is why I started Schizophrenic.NYC. Schizophrenic.NYC is a clothing line that makes people talk about mental health. When a person with Schizophrenia looks at a plain rorschach test, they see it from a different perspective. By redesigning the test with new patterns and colors, now everyone is forced to look at it from a different perspective. It starts a discussion that most people never had before. We take a portion of the profits and donate to charities in NYC that help out with the mentally ill population. Social change in NYC. Join the movement.


I hope by reading Michelle’s story, you will be inspired at some capacity, whether it is internally motivating or it encourages you to spread mental health awareness. Mental illness is not a person’s identity and it certainly does not define them.