The messages are all around us; on social media posts, magazine covers, television, and movies- that beauty is your worth. It is hard not to critique ourselves, when we live in a world that constantly and heavily emphasizes looks and outer appearance. From Kylie Jenner lip kits, to the pressure to look good immediately after having a baby, I’m not surprised I see so many individuals in therapy feeling these unrealistic expectations. Having these expectations can make teen girls and women feel less than their worth, creating low self-esteem. Social media posts of models and celebrities portray a false sense of security with the amount of followers and likes a person has on their Instagram/Facebook page. Is that really an accurate way to measure a person’s beauty? ABSOLUTELY NOT.
As a therapist, I often preach self-care to my clients. A part of that is of course loving yourself and loving your body. How do you do that?
Here are some tips to help you feel good about YOU and LOVE YOUR BODY:
- Create a list of all the things that your body lets you do. Be sure to read it aloud and add to it weekly.
- Be your body’s friend, not enemy!
- Honor your body. Respect your body.Respect and honor other bodies too. When you begin to see others as the beautiful people they are, you will have a much easier time loving who you are.
- Write positive notes to yourself and post them on your mirror. “You are beautiful” is just one example.
- Wear comfortable clothes that you like and that feel good to your body.
- Don’t let your weight keep you from participating in the activities you enjoy.
- Think about all the things you could enjoy and accomplish with the time and energy you currently spend worrying about your appearance.
- Reduce time spent on social media. Unfollow accounts that make you think any less of yourself.
- Increase positive social interactions with people or pets. Increased interactions allow you to talk about goals and dreams with others while listening to their stories. Interactions with pets help as you can focus your energy on that pet and not completely on yourself. You learn to give and take love unconditionally.
- Treat your body to a massage or a bath. It deserves it!
- Every night before you go to bed, tell your body how much you appreciate it for what it has allowed you to do throughout the day.
Love your body,
Spring is officially here! Hopefully the weather cooperates soon 😉 Spring is a time of renewal, learning to form and embrace a new version of yourself.
The Centered Life recently partnered with the blog talk radio show “Miscarriage Matters” as a part of the series Renewal of Body, Mind, and Soul. I was invited to be a guest by Danielle Langford. Danielle is an Empowerment Specialist and Workshop Facilitator, who created pinkempowers.com and is also the host of Miscarriage Matters. Miscarriage Matters is a radio show educating the public about miscarriage and loss and how it truly affects a person by offering friendship and a listening ear.
Miscarriage is important to talk about as it happens to women and families everywhere. Miscarriage does not discriminate. Through my work with clients who have experienced a miscarriage, I have gathered that there seems to be this attached shame of talking about it and rushed sense of needing to grieve quickly or if at all. Miscarriage Matters radio exists to let you know that you are not alone and to offer support.
Renewal involves establishing the new normal. Specifically, it is learning to form and embrace a “new version” of yourself with the loss now being a part of you; as a part of your identity.
Here are 8 helpful aspects to consider as you start your journey towards a “new normal”:
- First and foremost, know that you are not alone. You will never get over the miscarriage, but you can get through it.
- Allow yourself to grieve! Allow yourself to go through the grieving process by acknowledging the loss and learning to sit with the pain and to seek support.
- Increase your self-care by challenging feelings of guilt, getting involved in things that promote empowerment, and embracing self-love.
- Find your sense of self again. Give yourself permission to go through the grieving process- no matter what that looks like.
- We are emotional beings: express yourself through the process. Allow yourself to cry, be sad, and be angry, etc.
- It is okay to laugh! Experiencing joy is okay, even when you feel sadness and pain.
- Renewal starts when you are ready; sometimes loss becomes more painful, before it gets better
- Know that your experience is unique and grief is not linear. With that being said, there is no time frame or formula for grief. Everyone grieves differently and that is okay. It all depends on the culture, background, experience, situation, and of course the individual.
I encourage you to seek counseling as it can be tremendously helpful to validate your experience. Additionally, I encourage you to seek support through a religious or spiritual affiliation, volunteering, joining a club or organization, and from family/friends. As Danielle said in the show, “Sometimes you need to go outside, to get renewed inside”.
Please be sure to tune in weekly on Tuesdays at 7pm CST to listen to Danielle Langford and Miscarriage Matters. You can connect with Danielle and the rest of the Miscarriage Matters team at blogtalkradio.com/miscarriagematters. You can email them firstname.lastname@example.org. I also encourage you to check out Danielle’s website here for inspiration and a schedule of her upcoming workshops!
You can listen to this radio show segment HERE .